Thursday, October 28, 2010

Freedom


I have finally finished Freedom By Jonathan Franzen. If you are reading or plan to read this book be warned, there are SPOILERS!!!!

Freedom opens with Walter and Patty Berglund and their children Joey and Jessica. They live in suburban America. They seem like the average American family until you find out that Joey has moved in next door with his girlfriend Connie and her family. Right away that hits you as strange.
Soon we begin to learn about Patty's early life. We follow her from adolescence through college where she deals with an obsessed friend and meets Walter and Richard. Obsession was an early theme for me. No one seems to just like anyone around here. They are either neutral or obsessed. I think early in the book freedom is defined as getting what you want. I don't think the characters are freed by getting the love of the people that they want.
Even though Patty is truly in love with Richard, she ends up marrying Walter because of the love Walter offers. Richard is always distant because he respects Walter's feelings for Patty. This is the second time that Patty suppresses who she really is for what she feels is the greater good. I believe this leads to her later depression and mistreatment of Walter.
Patty and Walter create a life together. The kids grow up. Joey rebels from his mother's obvious favoritism and obsession with him by moving into his girlfriend's house. He goes on to college from there where is able to discover who he really is. It turns out that even though he couldn't get along with his father in his younger days, he is idealistic, just like Dad. I love that quality in both of them.
Patty plunges into an awful depression that causes her to cheat on Walter with Richard, and Walter to fall in love with a younger woman. I believe that if she could just feel free enough to be who she really is, none of this would have happened. I don't think she would have even married Walter.
The characters are real and so dimensional. They learn a lot of life's lessons the tough way. They fight emotion only to learn that it can't be done without destroying who you are. This is really a beautiful story that truly teaches a lot about Freedom. In the end I believe freedom is defined as the ability to be who you really are, and be ok with it.

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Book Reviews : Manic A Memior by Terri Cheney


I read this book some time ago, but I loved it so much that I wanted to add it my reviews.
Manic is the very personal story of Terri Cheney and her struggles with mental illness, namely manic depression. Terri tells her story with such vigor and truth. The good, the bad, and the ugly of manic depression is all in this book. Reading Terri's personal account has changed my views on personality disorders tremendously. I was never really able to understand manic depression, but after reading this I felt like I had experienced a tiny bit of what living this way must be like. I can relate to friends and family that struggle with mental illness in ways that I never could before. I can also appreciate the beautiful and special pieces of a personality that is marked with this illness.
The story skips around just the way that Terri's mind does which gives it a very authentic feel. Terri, an entertainment lawyer with a list of high profile clients, goes through love, loss, and institution time before finding her way in this world. This story has highs, lows, and moments you just won't believe. Most of all this is a story of hope and beauty. I highly recommend!

Book Reviews : Family Tree Barbra Delinsky


I am very excited to add book reviews to my blog! In August I was lucky enough to get a Barnes & Noble Nook for my birthday! I have always been an avid reader but the Nook changes everything. I'm reading more than I ever have now and I love it! Without further ado here's my review for Family Tree!

I came across this title when I was searching the $5 and under section for Barnes & Noble ebooks. There were a lot of great reviews for Family Tree, and it was $.89, so I really had nothing to lose, or not much to lose anyway. It was an easy read and I'd say worth the money I spent.

The books opens with a quintessentially happy couple just beginning the labor and delivery of their first child. Dana and Hugh Clarke are about to have a baby on what should be the happiest day of their lives. It all falls apart when the baby is born with African American coloring and features, even though Hugh and Dana are Caucasian. The couple is suddenly dealing with the differences in their family backgrounds and rumors of infidelity on Dana's part. It never mattered before to Hugh, who is from a well to do New England family, that Dana's family is just the opposite. Dana never knew her father so they assume this is where the African American traits come from, even though Dana has blonder features. Desperate to prove that his wife did not have an affair, Hugh begins the journey to find the African American roots in his daughters Family Tree.

The premise is a tad difficult to believe, as well as a few other details in the book. It's very difficult to imagine two Caucasian people having an African American baby. The book is pretty predictable as well. Otherwise, it's a quick read and a pretty good story. I also enjoyed the storyline on the side. If anyone has a Nook and is interested in this read, leave a comment and I will lend it to you!

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Chicken Stroganoff

Everyone has a Chicken Stroganoff recipe right? Here is my take on the chicken version of a beef classic. I use boneless skinless chicken thighs for extra flavor without the extra chicken juice over powering the sauce! If you can't find these at your local market, chicken breasts work as well.


6 boneless skinless chicken thighs
Olive oil for browning
salt & pepper to taste
1 cup sour cream
1 can cream of mushroom soup
1 package Lipton onion soup mix
1 cup long grain rice
2 cups chicken stock
1 tbsp. butter



Preheat Oven 350 degrees

Season chicken with salt & pepper. Brown chicken in a large oven safe pan. While chicken is browning mix together sour cream, cream of mushroom soup, and the onion soup mix in a separate mixing bowl. Once chicken is browned on all sides add the sour cream mixture to the pan. Remove pan from stove and pop in the oven for 1 hour.
When you've got about 40 minutes cooking time left on the chicken it's time to start your rice. Melt butter in a meduim sauce pan. Toast your rice until it's slightly golden brown and smells toasty. Add 2 cups of chicken stock. Bring to boil, reduce to simmer and cover. The rice will be ready when the chicken timer goes off.

Serve chicken and sauce over rice. You can also serve over egg noodles!

Thursday, August 26, 2010

New Recipe!

It's been a long long summer for me! I am really excited to be back in the fall routine as this is my favorite time of year! Over the summer I did get a chance to experiment with some new recipes. These things are always born out of necessity. That means I have lots of left over ingredients to use. If I buy those ingredients again to make the recipe on purpose then I know it was a good one. I'm excited to share my summer dinners with you guys. I'm starting off with a no recipe recipe. It's so easy, you'll never have to even write it down. I keep a variety of veggies in the fridge that can be easily roasted and throw them on the side of whatever I'm making. Any of these veggies can be interchanged, they are roasted the same way. Pictures coming soon!


Teriyaki Pork Chops with Rice and Roasted Asparagus
(for a family of 4)


4 medium to thick cut pork chops
3 tbs. of butter
1 tbs. flour
3/4 cup soy sauce
1/2 cup brown sugar
2 cups chicken stock
1/4 cup chicken stock
1 cup long grain rice
Asparagus
Olive Oil
1/2 lemon


Preheat oven to 400 degrees

I always start the asparagus first. Take one asparagus and snap the end off where it breaks naturally. Then use that one as a guide and chop the rest at the same point. Lay them out on a cookie sheet and drizzle with olive oil. Season liberally with salt and pepper. Toss to coat. Roast for about 20 minutes watching them to make sure the ends don't get too dark.

Melt 1 tbs. of butter in a medium sauce pan before adding 1 cup of long grain rice. Toast your rice until light brown. Add 2 cups of chicken stock. Bring to boil, reduce to simmer. Cover and simmer for 25 minutes until liquid is absorbed and rice is soft.

While your rice is cooking melt another 2 tbs. of butter in a large stainless steel frying pan on medium high heat. Sear chops 5-7 minutes on both sides. Remove chops from pan once cooked through. Whisk in the flour cooking for just a minute before deglazing the pan with the soy sauce. Add brown sugar whisking continuously. If your teriyaki is too thick, add chicken stock and continue whisking. If your sauce is too thin, turn the heat up to reduce it down some. Once you have the right consistency add the chops back into the pan turning to coat. Serve over rice with asparagus on the side. Enjoy!


More recipes to come soon!

Friday, April 16, 2010

Remembering Mr. Betts


Remembering Mr. Brian Betts

I first met Mr. Betts in 1989. He was the new Phys. Ed teacher at Rockview Elementary School in Kensignton Maryland. I was a 5th grade student, also new to the school. Even though I didn't see much of Mr. Betts, I really enjoyed being in his class. Students only have physical education once a week in grade school. Two years later I had moved on to Redland Middle School, in another district of Montgomery County Maryland. On the first day of 7th grade, to my happy surprise I ran into Mr. Betts again. He transferred and would be my teacher again for that year. In our first class he introduced himself. He told the other students that if they wanted to know what kind of a teacher he was they should ask me. I had nothing but glowing things to say about Mr. Betts. Through out the next year I would really get to know what kind of an educator Mr. Betts really was. He had a way of making each student feel special in his eyes. My self confidence was automatically boosted when I was in his presence. That year he taught his students 3 semesters of Physical Education and 1 semester of Health Education. He was just as good in the classroom as he was on the field. Mr. Betts was really able to relate to us, often talking about his experience in school. He was a one of a kind teacher.

This morning while I was having coffee with my husband and talking to my children about their upcoming day in school there was a news report that caught my attention. The newscaster reported that Brian Betts, a middle school principal had been found dead in his home of an apparent gun shot wound. I didn't think it was the Mr. Betts that I had known. Tragically after some Internet research I found that it was indeed.

I am so sad to see that the world has lost such a wonderful person. I wish I had told Mr. Betts what a difference he made in my life. My heart goes out to his family, friends, and students.
The investigation into Mr. Betts' murder is on going.

Detectives are asking anyone with information regarding the whereabouts of the victim's dark blue Nissan Xterra blue 2007 Nissan Xterra (MD plate 562M222) to call the police non-emergency number of (301) 279-8000. Anyone with other information pertaining to this death is asked to call homicide detectives at 240-773-5070. Callers may remain anonymous.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Little Things


When I started this blog I had planned to just post the articles I have written. In this downtime between articles I thought I would share a few little things. As I was heading to soccer practice one day over the fall I looked up and saw this rainbow. My husband was out of town on business at the time. I really didn't want him to miss this rainbow so I fumbled around for my phone and snapped a picture to send to him. Rainbows remind me that there is happiness after the storm.

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

25 Things

My Bucket List


1. See the Mona Lisa

2. Create an original recipe

3. Publish an article

4. Attend the weddings of my children

5. Write a letter to myself as a child

6. Celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary

7. See a shooting star

8. Forgive my father

9. Finish reading Anna Karenina

10. Write a novel

11. Make a difference in someone's life

12. See the Dave Matthews Band in concert with my husband

13. Decode a dream

14. Visit California wine country

15. Pet a kangaroo

16. See the Taj Mahal at sunset

17. Stand in the middle of Time Square

18. Celebrate the New Year in 2055

19. See the pyramids

20. Get over my fear of heights

21. So that I can see the Grand Canyon

22. Take a cross country trip with my husband

23. Discover my ancestry

24. See a Broadway show

25. Be a Grandmother

Friday, February 12, 2010


There has been a lot of talk about The Duggars recently. In December they welcomed their 19th child into the world. The Duggars live just outside of Springdale Arkansas and are the subject of a TLC reality show.

The story starts with Mom, Michelle and Dad, Jim Bob. They met in the early 80's through church connections and married in 1984. At the time of their marriage Michelle took the pill believing that they were not ready for children yet. In 1988 the first baby Duggar Joshua was born. Michelle went back on the pill after his birth. She then conceived and miscarried. The family doctor pointed out that it was a possibility when taking the pill. Jim Bob and Michelle were devastated. As they saw it this conflicted with their pro-life beliefs. They made the choice then to discontinue the use of all birth control. They have since added 18 children to their clan.

As conservative Christians the Duggars have many other interesting family convictions. All of the children are home schooled. They do not own a television. Internet access is strictly monitored and very limited in their home. The Duggars do not partake in dancing, drink any kind of alcohol, or wear anything shorter than the knee. That last rule must be a little uncomfortable during summers in the deep south. Another interesting Duggar fact is that they live debt free. They own several properties that they rent out to make ends meet.

The most recent birth for the Duggar family saw the 19th child entering the world in physical distress. Michelle was hospitalized because of pain from gall stones. During her time in the hospital she was diagnosed with preeclampsia, which is high blood pressure induced by pregnancy. Preeclampsia can be a significant risk after multiple pregnancies, as well as being fatal for Mom and baby if it is left untreated. Unfortunately the only treatment is to end the pregnancy and deliver the baby. Josie Brooklyn was born 15 weeks early. She has had a remarkable recovery despite all of the obstacles in front of her.

The Duggars are followers of the evangelical christian movement called Quiverful which preaches against all form of birth control believing that God opens and closes the womb at his will. The Quiverful movement also teaches that men are leaders and require women to be submissive. Tragically the movement garnered negative press when follower Andrea Yates drowned her own children in the family bathtub. Andrea was told by a psychiatrist not to have more children because of her history of postpartum depression. Andrea's husband, a preacher and fellow Quiverful follower encouraged her to stop taking her medication and conceive their 5th child to disastrous results.

The Duggars have been called selfish, addicted to pregnancies, and even crazy. They have been accused of having children in order to be on TV. People just can't believe that they take care of so many children without public assistance. Fans and critics alike have expressed concern for Michelle's health after so many pregnancies. Despite this, the show 19 Kids and Counting documents a happy, beautiful family. By all accounts The Duggars are warm, kindhearted people who are pillars of their community.

I believe the answer comes down to the personal freedom afforded every person in this country. For the Duggars it is a pro-life issue. For me, it is a pro-choice issue. As I believe that every woman has the right to make the choice that is best for them regarding abortion. I also believe every woman has the right to make the choice to have as many children as they can take care of. For me, it's that simple. What do you think?

Thursday, February 4, 2010

The World of Child Beauty Pageants

In the 20's an Atlantic City hotel owner conceived the American Beauty Pageant as a way to keep guests in the area after the tourist season concluded. Little Miss pageants didn't join them until the 1960's. For contestants ages 0-18 categories can include talent, interview, sportswear, swimwear, western, outfit of choice, and evening wear. Child beauty pageants are a billion dollar a year business. Until recently this was strictly an American past time. It can cost between $300-$5000 to enter your child into a pageant.

Pageant judges are looking for the girl that is the total package. While every competition is different there is a standard in the industry. For a natural pageant girls are encouraged to look their age without make up. Glitz pageants are an entirely different beast. A glitz girl's road to the crown starts with a headshot. The photograph is expected to be retouched in several areas including skin smoothing, blemish removal, adding blush, eyebrow thickening, adding of make up, tan, eyelashes, eye color enhancement, tooth whitening, and lip shine. The resulting picture often looks like a cartoon version of the original. Contestants one up their headshots on the stage with glamor make up, artificial hair pieces, and overlays for teeth known as flippers. The winners often walk away with nice cash prizes. Even cars are awarded in some of the bigger pageants.

Americans are fascinated with the subject of young girls glitz pageants. TLC and WE are both running documentary style shows on the subject. HBO's Living Dolls documented the making of a child beauty queen in 2001. Even BBC has its own documentary on the subject called Painted Babies. All of these programs focus on the controversial side of pageantry. Mothers are shown pushing their daughters to practice their modeling routines. The little girls are shown at the times when they are the most frustrated. None of these documentaries give a well rounded picture of what the experience is like for the contestants.

Observers critiquing pageants often note that the make up and costumes sexualize young children. They fear that girls featured in competitions like this will grow up to value looks over personality. Many people believe that it is the dream of the parent to see their offspring in lights and not at all what the child wants. All of these aspects have been highlighted in the tv shows that bring pageantry to our living rooms.

The JonBenet Ramsey murder case first brought pageantry into a negative light for mainstream America. JonBenet was a child beauty queen who held numerous major titles at the time of her murder. She lived a privileged lifestyle in Boulder Colorado. Home videos of her in various glitz costumes and heavy make up were splashed across news media in the days following her death. Leaps were made by reporters who often tied the tragic event to her exposure in pageants. There has been no evidence of that. Unfortunately there has been no evidence that has lead to the monster that took JonBenet from her family at all. We may never know if pageants had anything to do with JonBenet's murder. Since the media coverage of the case most pageants across the country have adopted a closed door policy for the safety of their contestants. Usually only the parents of contestants are allowed to watch the girls compete. Often girls are preforming before many empty seats and a panel of judges.

On the other side advocates for pageantry say that what the girls are really learning include lessons in poise and public speaking. Annette Hill is the owner and director of the Universal Royalty pageants, awarding some of the most coveted crowns in the business. She noted on the Tyra Banks show that girls are not being sexualized in these events. She believes it is the same as the girls playing dress up. Many pageant insiders believe that beauty is important, and simply a fact of living in America that must be accepted in order to succeed. Time and time again pageant mothers insist that their girls love what they do and that it is enriching to their lives.

The pageant debate is a heated one for most of us. They seem to be the kind of thing that you either love or you hate. Little girls in the south dream of doing the pageant wave to a serenade of the Miss America song. In California girls aspire to one day ride the rose queen's float on New Year's Day. It is a part of our culture. The competitive aspect is something pageants share with many other activities children are involved in including all sports. However, there is no other competition where a person is judged based on their looks.

Many psychologists believe that exposing a child to that kind of pressure is risking self esteem issues. Although the public regularly expresses concern about pedophiles frequenting such events, there has been no evidence to show that this happens. Many former child beauty queens have spoken fondly of their time on the pageant stage. Leslie Butler was one of the subjects of the HBO Documentary Living Dolls. By all accounts she is a well adjusted high school student today with a great life. The girls from BBC's Painted Babies were also documented again when they were 17. Both girls were poised and accomplished at this age. There has been no indication of problems caused by pageantry involvement. It seems to me that the problems with pageant involvement have more to do with the parents themselves than the competition. Competing on the pageant stage is a personal choice that I believe every family has the right to make.